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How to Spot Stress and Anxiety in Children


Anxious Chinese student rubbing forehead doing homework
Signs of stress and anxiety in children often show up as physical or behavioral changes. Children respond differently to stress depending on their age, individual personalities, and coping skills, which can cause many parents to overlook the underlying issues that may be causing their child's behavior.
It is important for parents to recognize the signs of childhood stress and to look for the possible causes. Parents can usually help children manage stress and anxiety, but some children may have an anxiety disorder and can benefit from professional help.

Signs of Anxiety in Children

Children may not recognize their own anxiety and often lack the maturity to explain their real or imagined stressful issues. This can cause a variety of physical and behavioral signs to emerge, and parents may be unsure whether these are symptoms anxiety or a health problem.
Some common signs of stress and anxiety include:
Behavioral or Emotional
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Behavioral changes, such as moodiness, aggression, a short temper, or clinginess
  • Fears (fear of the dark, being alone, or of strangers)
  • Development of a nervous habit, such as nail biting
  • Withdrawing from family or friends
  • Refusal to go to school
  • Getting into trouble at school
  • Hoarding items of seeming insignificance
Physical
  • Decreased or increased appetite
  • Complaints of stomach aches or headaches
  • Bedwetting
  • Sleep problems or nightmares
  • Other physical symptoms
It can help to think about whether these signs typically occur before or after certain activities, and whether there are physical symptoms, such as pain, fevers, rash, or diarrhea, that could signal a medical problem.

Common Causes of Childhood Stress

The source of anxiety and stress in children can be something external, such as a problem at school, changes in the family, or a conflict with a friend. Anxious feelings can also be caused by a child's internal feelings and pressures, such as wanting to do well in school or fit in with peers. Some common causes of stress in children include:
Big Changes in the Family
Major life changes that can lead to stress in children include divorce, a death in the family, moving, or the birth of a new sibling. These seismic shifts can rock your child’s world. Major life changes can shake your child’s sense of security, leading to confusion and anxiety. For example, a new sibling can make a child feel threatened and jealous. A death in the family can create alarm and grief and may trigger fears about death and dying.
Parental Instability
Money and job concerns, family turmoil, and parental agitation can lead to an overwhelming sense of powerlessness for children who may feel that they want to help, but don't have the means to do so.
Overly-Packed Schedules
Constantly running from one activity to another can cause a great deal of stress for children who usually need some quiet downtime every once in a while.
Academic Pressure
Many children experience anxiety about wanting to do well in school. Academic pressure is particularly common in children who are afraid of making mistakes or who are afraid of not being good at something.
Popularity
For younger grade-schoolers, separation anxiety can be a common problem. As they get older, most children want to fit in with other kids and be like, and the pressure to fit in and be popular can be agonizing. Cliques and the feeling of being excluded usually become an issue once kids enter grade school.
Bullying
Bullying is a serious problem for many children. It can be subtle, or obvious, and may lead to physical harm. Children who are bullied often feel embarrassed about being targeted, and they may hide the bullying from parents or teachers for fear of drawing attention to their perceived weaknesses.
Catastrophic Event on the News
News headlines and images showing natural disasters, terrorism, and violence can be upsetting for children. When kids see and hear about terrible news events, they may worry that something bad might happen to them or to someone they love.
A Scary Movie or a Book
Fictional stories can also cause distress or anxiety in children. Children are commonly affected by frightening, violent, or upsetting scenes from a movie or passages in a book. Some kids might be more sensitive to media content than others, and it's a good idea to know what might upset your child, to limit violent media content, and stick to age-appropriate movies, books, video games, and other media.

How to Help Your Child

There are healthy ways in which your child can cope and respond to stress, they just need some help and guidance. You can help in the following ways:
At Home
  • Make your home a calm, safe and secure place to come to.
  • Create a relaxed home atmosphere and commit to a routine. Family dinners or game nights can prevent anxiety and help relieve stress.
  • Monitor your child's television shows, video games, and books.
Keep Them Involved
  • Give your child a heads up on any anticipated changes and talk through the new scenarios with them. For example, if you will be taking a new job in a new city, what will that mean for them in terms of a new school, new friends and a new home?
  • Involve your child in social and sports activities where they can succeed.
  • Allow for opportunities where your child can have control over a situation in their life.
Your Actions

  • Adopt healthy habits such as exercise and self-care to manage your own stress in healthy ways. Children often mimic their parents' behaviors.
  • Provide affection and encouragement.
  • Use positive reinforcement and methods of discipline that promote healthy self-esteem.
  • Learn to really listen to your child without being critical or solving problems for them. Provide guidance to teach your child ways to understand and solve the problems that upset them.
  • Keep an eye out for new signs and behaviors of unresolved stress.

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